Why I want to be a Writer

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Hey all! Friends, Acquaintances & Strangers

I am shifting the big bulk of my blogs on this newly setup blogging page. This is to have more protection over my intellectual assets.

Yes! If you have seen my latest update on facebook, I am currently planning to be PROFESSIONAL WRITER.

I have always been contemplating about it, as I love to read a lot. Writing gives me a lot of fun and joy! I graduated from media studies, and also thought that I should not abandon my ‘talent’ in that sense.

Really appreciate you guys & hope to have your support.

Thank you so much. Have a great day!

God Bless,
Ashley

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Finding my True Personality and Weakness

Lately as I consume and explore more and more of Bach Flower remedies, I began to search for my true personality type and weaknesses.

I realise I will need my secondary type remedies when I am drowned in certain situations/ environment.

Gradually I began to realise my Primary remedies that are linked my true personality type. There are 2  of which are White Chestnut and the other one is none others than Clematis.

So while I am not in need my my secondary type remedies, and in my primary ‘me’ state, I just need these 2 remedies. I will need my White Chestnut before I enter into my bedtime, to help the floods of thoughts in mind to order a sounder sleep. I will also need Clematis in my daily routines from time to time to help me to be grounded.

This will definitely improve my state of being. And I can be who I am in a better way.

Happy Daddys’ Day!

I am reminded of this day that it takes someone special to be a dad! Love this song!

I look at your smiling face,
Your so weak, yet you have such strength,
You take a glance around this place,
You make the best of everything
You give me hope, in spite of everything,
You show me love, even with so much pain
So I’ll take this life and live like I was given another try
We laugh, we cry
Sometimes we’re broken and we don’t know why,
I’m tired and I lose my way,
you help me find faith, oOo
You give me hope, in spite of everything,
You show me love, even with so much pain
So I’ll take this life and live like I was given another try
Just give me another try
You give me hope, in spite of everything,
You show me love, even with so much pain
So I’ll take this life and live like I was given another try
You give me hope, in spite of everything,
You show me love, even with so much pain
So I’ll take this life and live like I was given another try
Just give me another try
Just give me another try
[Lyrics by Ella Malone, Matt, Tommie Gross, Cady]

我看着你的笑脸,
你这么弱,但你有这样的力量,
你一瞥这个地方,
你尽全力
你给我希望,尽管一切,
你显示我的爱,即使有这么多的痛苦
所以我会过这样的生活,像我再次尝试一样
我们笑,我们哭了
有时候我们坏了,我们不知道为什么,
我累了,我失去了路,
你帮我找到信心,哦
你给我希望,尽管一切,
你显示我的爱,即使有这么多的痛苦
所以我会过这样的生活,像我再次尝试一样
再给我一个尝试
你给我希望,尽管一切,
你显示我的爱,即使有这么多的痛苦
所以我会过这样的生活,像我再次尝试一样
你给我希望,尽管一切,
你显示我的爱,即使有这么多的痛苦
所以我会过这样的生活,像我再次尝试一样
再给我一个尝试
再给我一个尝试

 

Love Language

We all have different love languages. My primary love language is words of affirmation. My later ones are practical help and gifts. I am the sort where I need people to help me get excited and feel worthy. I enjoy carrying out tasks with like-minded people. I need daily affirmation that I am not too bad. Its a need not a want.

Its easy to get infatuated but it may not be easy to stay in love. At different juncture of our lives, we have different needs as well. Our views and priorities differs.

As a child, I seek to get my parents to believe in me and approve me. I like to hear them praising me. Sadly, it seldom occur. It seems nothing that I do is worthy even I really did quite well. When our loved ones are insensitive to our needs, and when it prolongs, it will definitely contribute negative emotions in us.

Happy Mothers’ Day!

Its been a ‘Mothers’ Day’ week! Everywhere I went, there were commercial items for sale based on this special theme! From cakes that sells at $125 to high tea! Also, I have read so many testimonies from the media. ie. how a China mum sacrifice herself to work hard to pay off the school fees of her son and eventually the son could enter Harvard University!
For me, nothing else compares to the presence of a mum. How can I do without her volunteering of washing my clothings to cooking since I was born? I was just sharing last night to my friends that no other dishes beats my mum’s – Wolfberries and White Fungus Chicken yesterday. Though I had decent outside meals, but don’t you agree that the healing benefits of what our mums input into her dishes met our very needs?
What gift items we give doesn’t matter, I guess its the heart that matters.
Personally I love perfumes. I love scents. I search for perfumes high and low. One of the perfume that really caught my eye is the perfume created by Natasha Gregson Wagner to commemorate her late famous mama, Natalie Wood (1938–1981). The perfume is called NATALIE EAU DE PARFUM. Turns out, it also was a favorite of Joan Crawford, Elizabeth Taylor and Michael Jackson.

Happy Mothers’ Day!

Check out the very low profile website: nataliefragrance.com if you like to know more

Cherry Plum ~ Miracle for Stability of the Mind

I was super busy with messy schedules and heavy chores to cope with for the past 3 weeks. Things were zooming fast and I do not have much time for myself. My mind was crowded. In between. I took Rescue and Oak. My body eventually broke down with fever and sorethroat. My dinner made me had minor stomach upset. Yesterday I wanted to drink some wine before my bedtime to calm my nerves.
Today I was feeling very zoombified and also feel my nerves working on me. I realised I was in ‘panicky’ and ‘out of control’ mode, so I remedied myself with Cherry Plum. It really works! I could sense my mind is more grounded and I wasn’t on my nerves. I am back to my best self! It works better than Rescue. Much better. I am glad I took this. Now I am ready for the brand new next day.

Depression

Depression is not complicated, its just hard to understand fully. From my personally experience, it can be due to a few main factors ie: loss of something precious (can be a loved one), feeling something is missing perhaps in the area of unfulfilling relationships, could be caused by suppressing desires or perhaps just plain emotional & physical exhaustion.
Some depression are just events. One can get over it and pass by it forever. Some can be chronic. Its not easy for a person who is suffering from depression to cope with the surroundings and people. As they can be accused instead of being helped in the right way. I remember in my case, my parents thought I was having unrealistic goals and that caused it. But its not exactly the case. When a depressed person is not cared in a positive way, it can be very dangerous as depression can lead to suicide.
I remember its such a struggle to talk about it and you still have to go through they daily life per norm. As such one tends to shelter herself or himself safely in a way to feel safe, like to be cocoon in isolation. As such they can also be accused as being anti-social.
Medication can only help manage depression but it cannot be cured. I remember taking Prozac and feel even more miserable. It only suppressed your feelings and sometimes make my head heavy. Depression can only be healed by renewing the spirit man and it takes time. It can reoccur again when its not completely healed when the similar situation arise again.
In Bach Flower Remedies, I would use Cherry Plum to stable the mind (when the mind is out of control), Gorse for the feeling of despair/ hopelessness, Honeysuckle for living in the past, Mustard for deep gloom, Star of Bethlehem for the need of comfort. These are just some references. There could be more prescriptions varying from different conditions.

So, if you know anyone who is currently in depression, or perhaps yourself, you may wana contact me. Just drop me an email at ash.lim@hotmail.com. I can only converse in English or Mandarin.

Thank you for reading! Have a good day! 😀

Loneliness

We all gothrough loneliness. Loneliness can be scary or empowering. It can be empowering when we overcome the need for others company to satisfy us and lead us to seek better avenues or solutions in our situations. Such a person can become a great leader who had went through hardships positively. This person can be even a better leader when he/she understands that the seasons we live in are entirely different (the system, culture, economy etc).
Loneliness can lead us to seek our higher self (our better self) which is good. Sometimes loneliness can force us to do that when there is no one to turn to. Often at such times, it makes us a better steward of our resources and maximize our strength. Sometimes it also help us to realize the depth of relationships around us. Maybe we kind of grew up in an environment where we were often spoon fed and were never left alone. However, as human beings we have this tendency to desire close-knit relationships to keep us alive and feel loved. Its true we need water, food, a house (roof above our heads) etc to live decently. This is the physical world we ought and deserve to have.
Loneliness can appear in many forms. It does not only happens when we are all physically alone. Sometimes, it happens to people who have dozens of friends around them but they still feel lonely (though they are not alone). Feeling lonely but you are not alone. Having companies does’t solve loneliness, it only satisfies the temporary need of having some small talks, our social securities etc. True friendships and relationships builds a more emotionally stable person. Thats why strong families build better children.
Its not wrong to feel lonely. Its only right to manage it positively. In relationships we may not always get the most ideal person we need. In situations we may not always get the most ideal situation we desire.
I am still learning to manage this area of my life. I am at the juncture of seeking the ‘buddy’ of my life. I faced many challenges already for the past years. Its not a glamourous part of my life but each time I pray for a better outcome. Not that I am greedy. However, its the makeup of individuals are so different and I have no time to interpret the quirks of finicky characters.